Enhance your social status: TOP 5 worst  nice guy habits that reduce social status.

To enter popular group, is everyone's desire; people often try to shapeshift their personality to fit into idealized standard. In the  race to climb the social ladder,  nice guys lag far behind. It often takes them a lot of unlearning and learning to enhance their social status. In this blog, we have listed for you top 5 worst nice guys that reduce social status.

Before we dive in the blog, let us what is a nice guy is? And what a nice is like in the social setting?

 

What is a nice guy in a social setting like?

There are lot of myth surrounding the  nice guys.  In layman term a nice guy is a guy who behaves good to sound appeasing to the others. People mistake them for a  nerd,  in actual it  does not have a slight correlation with it.

So, what is it? What is a nice guy? A nice  is a person who puts an appeasing behavior to impress others, by alter their persona to fancy the next person every time.  They struggle  to keep forward their actual persona to seek attention.  Nice guy is not actually not the  nice guy, but are dishonest guy.

Keeping above statement in mind, it can even be the topper nerd, or a naughtiest kid in the room; Yes, even the naughtiest kid. A nerd becomes nice guy, when it tries impress his parents via test scores, and naughty boys becomes the same by unnecessarily displaying aggression to gain female attention. Any act to alter your persona to attract attention is a nice guy behavior.

A person who is not nice guys are person  socially is comfortable in their skin. They do not try to impress their parents via marks, and children by altering their behavior to sound rebellious.

 

TOP 5 worst nice guy habits that reduces your social  status.

We learned previously;  nice guy falls behind in the social ladder due to their incapability to be honest about themselves, but why they aren’t the  honest ones?

There are 5 reasons behind this cause, which is an effect of 5 worst  nice guy habits they imbibe  in a social setting; the list goes as follows:-

People pleasing Behavior:

Nice guy tries to impress everyone or getting stuck in a vicious cycle of over giving for no minimal reciprocation.  They put people's interest as their utmost priority, contributing further and further to their self-negligence. Nice guy often fails gauging that  their self-worth is in their own hand, the next person has no control over it.

 

Let us give an example,  you are in a nice guy group of friends, you prepare all slides for them,  they leave you and party alone.  You feel sad and work on as you think you do not have an option. The scenario keeps happening and happening.

 Why do you choose to repeat the behavior again ’for a party’ but if you did not help them  ‘ they will not pass?’  What is worse, ‘ having no grades and failing having no party for a year’ and ‘not having to party today and have a party for rest of the year.’

Not having grades and being grounded for year, right? So, power is in your hand. If they fail anyways, neither they will be your classmates and nor they will be partying for a year.

 

Fear of losing a social circle/FOMO:

Nice guys have a rational fear of losing friend circle/ fear of missing out the  parties, hangout, and fun altogether. In social setting nice guy have comparatively less option. Although, the  circle they hangout in demeans their self-worth and as well as social value.

The fear due to their unempirical attitude, they neither set up minimal boundary to make room for self-companionship,  nor they ever venture to  change their social circle.

 

Lack of confidence:

Nice guys lack confidence to go on and face people. They lack this confidence due to their lack of experimenting. The fear of rejection is ingrained in their mind, which hinders their self-growth. They do not venture into anything due to the same.

They give to importance to the situation. They often do not analyze the situation thoroughly; often an extrinsic situation overpowers them. For example: A has fear of rejection. He approaches B with a friendship proposal. B  refuses to be his friend. This is the extrinsic situation, but intrinsic situation can be B is not the good person, he exploits C.

 

Does not work in building value:

 

The Nice guy struggle to socialize because do not have a value. Value means they are 24x 7 chasing people. They do not work on themselves. No investment in self-care, self-teaching, and self-training leads to astray in the social setting.

Thet  often reduce their standard, making no room to experience themselves. They invest no time developing  their own persona, taste, and style. Thet roam  confused jumping from one social group to another in order to fixate the situation that is not understood at first place.

Being a nice guy is an act of putting a deliberate impression on the people, in order to seek unnecessary  attention of the people,  a nice guy can come in any shape and form. They can be a nerd or bully in a classroom, a talented dancer seeking people eyes and clap to validate their dance.

Nice guys are Self-paradox, they never chose themselves first but, expect other to choose them. Nice guys seek compulsively validation which never met, and never be never met as they have never invested time in building their value.

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