How To attain an abilIty to say no?

How To have an abilIty to say no? 

Let us understand by fear of saying no 

Inability to say no is a huge issue people often face this issue, because guilt , shame otr fear, but where it actually route from, why you can't say no. To say no to someone is difficult because you fear losing a person or you are empathetic as person and can't set healthy emotional boundary. 

Act of people pleasing is a real deal, understanding is another, so here is a complete analysis of understanding fear of saying no, and act of people pleasing,  for eample,  Rohan is an accountant in an organization, who is working overtime without salary hike in the company. His boss keeps working hard for him, but he keeps working because of the fear of being proven a bad employee.

Because of this, his family keeps worrying or when the time comes to get the raise, he does not even get the raise. Here he can't say no to the situation, because he can't refuse to lose the job, and to say stagnent is only option.  

The act of people pleasing 

People pleasers are those people who take people's interest as their utmost priority. Reasons to prioritize others, yes, it is a mistake to give priority as, they have self-care, grooming, health or taking care of your work.  Yes, people's work has been done so much that their work has never been done. Being highly available adds value to people's lives.

Fear of facing people

Many people are afraid of getting into a fight with someone so they never have to face someone. Yeah, fear of facing people is the reason for not facing people, which is the reason why many people take   their problem with them or by scolding them even though it is never their mistake.

Due to fear of facing, a person always finds himself in a situation where people use him like a punching bag or an emotional dump. Let's take an example, like one girl in a college with her name Ramana,  all the girls used to tell her the problems of their life, but when they came to her then no one would answer the phone. 

Ramana is everyone's friend, but everyone do not respect her, they just use her as an emotional dump. It is also wasted or does not help anyone . He never tells because he can't face his friends. People who she face, they also start by quarreling, even if it is not more than 2 minutes, or the possibility of winning is 99.99 percent.

Lack of confidence 

Many people don't even can stand for their self, because they haven't stood for themselves, or they can't take it from others. This situation has become divided only when there is so much at stake. Like money or reputation.

What seems to be a loss once, that person gets loss again and again. They can get what they want but they get tortured for free. Yes, torture is worse than anything else.  Let's take this example. There is a boy, whose name is Ehit, who does not know English, he is friends with his classmate Prath so that he helps him in studies, but Prath just tells him that he is a fool and insult him.

Exam passes, he does not get placed, but Ehit can read, knows some English or he can also learn from YouTube for free, but he is relying on bad options, good score and excel in acing the interview. In the end, Ehit passes the exam. which he could have passed by slightly working hard as well

Confronting Inscurity 

Hiding insecurty 

Some people try to hide their desires, they are trying to fit into the fabricated perfection of the society, in which it is impossible to fit in because no human being is ever perfect. Yes, people pretend to be perfection, or even try to do so, but people never see their imperfections.

Yes, showing imperfections is also natural, because no one can behave too artificially. In this pursuit of perfection, we are all living examples  are boys, who try to create a false image just to impress other  boys not making sense at all. Explain it to yourself, how does bosy count make you a better, or something superior, it does make you inferior thiugh but, does it matter really, even if it does, does it actually mattet; well hell no, there are lot other factir taht are important. 

A friend that ony can party and can't save your life is a no firend or a human at first place. I mean it's better be alone, that take up these  people withb you 

Self-image issues

If someone is a nerd, he doesn't want to look like a nerd, or if someone is really blunt, he behaves softly so that he doesn't look rowdy. We give up our identity to get a person..We only want to fit into a single category, whether that category is liked by 95 percent or not. There is only one trick whose different versions are available on the internet, we have changed ourselves to use it.

Conclusion 

The fear of saying no is a significant issue that many people face due to guilt, shame, or other factors. 

It can lead to feelings of losing someone or empathetic behavior, making it difficult to set healthy emotional boundaries. People pleasing is another issue, where people prioritize others over their own interests, which can be detrimental to their well-being. Fear of facing people can also lead to people using someone as a punching bag or emotional dump, resulting in wasted time and effort.

Lack of confidence can also be a barrier for many people, as they struggle to stand for themselves or take responsibility for their actions. This can lead to repeated losses, such as being insulted or even tortured. For example, a boy named Ehit, who is friends with his classmate Prath, struggles with English and excels in his studies, but is often criticized and insulted by his classmates. Understanding these issues can help individuals develop the ability to say no and maintain a healthy emotional boundary.